Sunday, September 21, 2014

The Art of Meeting Someone in Real Life, Who You First Met Online.

We all have those friends on Facebook that we've technically never met in real life. And at some point you will end up meeting one of them in real life. This situation can be a daunting and exciting one...if you know how to handle it.

While I am not an expert on this subject, I've definitely gone on my fair share of blogger meet-ups and Tinder dates. Follow these and you'll be golden.

1. Pretend like you don't know everything about their life.

Let's be serious, you've done your research. From Facebook to LinkedIn, you know where they work, where they're from and what their favorite snocone flavor is. But don't you dare let them know that. It's all fun and games until you spit out an obscure fact about them, then it just gets creepy.

2. Look the best you possibly can. 

If you're meeting bloggers, chevron & bubble necklaces are a must or wear anything from a thrift store. You gotta look like your blog pics or you're screwed. If you're meeting someone from Tinder, go out of your way to look exactly how you look in your Tinder photos but better. You'd expect nothing less of them, right? 

3. Always go for the hug when you greet them. 

You already know everything about their life, a handshake would just be weird. Break the touch barrier, I promise you'll feel a lot better about the whole situation if you do.

4. It's gonna be awkward.

You kind of run out of things to talk about because you've already read everything about their life. (Either from their blog or from stalking the boy/girl's insta). Am I right? There's gonna be awkward silence so embrace the awkwardness.

5. Always meet up somewhere.

You don't want them picking you up. Why? Cause while you might know that they wrestle pigs in their spare time, you don't know what their level of crazy is yet. Once you've determined this level and it is near your level or matches yours, it's appropriate to invite them over whenever. Cause now you're like best buds.

6. Realize that you most likely will never see them again.

While I haven't managed to get rid of Laura or Madeline yet...(Ha! Kidding. Love you guys!). More often than not, you probably won't ever talk to them again in real life. So, talk too much, be obscene, be hilarious, and be crazy because you most likely won't get that chance again.
(Well...try to not be TOO obscene..)

7. Admit It. You've stalked each other.

With blog friends, you tell each other how much you've stalked each other. It's actually an insult if they say "Oh well...I've only read a couple of your posts." Like no. You better know what I did three years ago on September 12 at 9:36 p.m. or we can't be friends.

On the other hand...it's way creepy to admit to someone of the opposite gender that you've stalked each other. Even though you both totally have stalked each other or wouldn't be meeting in the first place.

Admit stalkage at your own risk.

8. Have a code word. 

If the situation goes south, have one word you can text your best friend so he/she can call you and fake an emergency and get you out of there fast. Having an escape route is key.

9. When in doubt, talk about the other people you haven't met yet.

So you've obviously met online through blogging, Twitter, Tinder, or Facebook. Inevitably, you're already going to be in an "online click" with the someone you're meeting up with. Usually the other person is better friends with that other person you follow on Twitter. Talk about them because you'll want to know anyway. Plus gossip time!

Annnnndd my less satirical advice to anyone in this situation:

10. Be yourself. 

While it's all fun and games, just be you. If you're not automatic blogger buddies or don't end up dating that really hot Tinder guy. It's alright. You were you and that's all that matters. Keep your chin up and go and find more online friends who you've never met in real life!

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

When my dad gives me amazing advice about dating and it totally changes my whole life.

This summer was a complete nightmare for me: I started Tindering.

I matched with boy after boy and went on tons of dates.
At the time, I thought to myself that Tinder was amazing.
I was actually going on dates! This was a good thing! 

Many of my dates were great, I met some really nice guys and everything seemed perfectly fine.
Then I met this one guy. 

This guy was amazing.
He was so attractive and intelligent. I had so much fun with him. I thought I'd finally found someone that I really cared about and could see myself dating. 

Unfortunately, some poor choices were made and we didn't end up dating. I was really heartbroken. I was so heartbroken, I called my dad in tears. So frustrated by what had happened and had no idea what to do. I REALLY liked this guy. Why did he have to be a jerk? JUST LIKE EVERY OTHER GUY?

And then my dad said something to me that I haven't been able to stop thinking about. He said: "Elisabeth, you have got to stop thinking that this is it. That this is the only boy who will ever like you, so you have to make it work somehow. That is simply NOT THE CASE."

This has completely changed how I've thought about dating over the last month. BECAUSE HE IS SO RIGHT!! I am a beautiful, talented woman who isn't the type of person to dig my claws into the first guy who gives me attention.

Girls, this is exactly why we have problems with boys. Why everything seems to go wrong and why we're so frustrated by dating. We don't understand that there will be other boys. You don't need to pine over that one boy because there will be somebody so much better for you. It's OKAY to be single. Marriage is a result of a beautiful, wonderful relationship with someone because you love them. It shouldn't be a social status. It shouldn't be a sign of success. It's a sacred connection to someone.

We need to stop thinking this way. We need to be comfortable in our own skin and realize how influential and sensational we are as single women. We have so much opportunity because we're single! I'm moving to Arizona with my best friend after I graduate. Do you think I could just pick up my life and move wherever I want to if I was married? Not at all.

Girls, have more respect for yourselves than to chase after the only boy who gives you attention. Understand that marriage has a time and a place in Heavenly Father's plan. It's not a commitment to make lightly. Dating exclusively shouldn't be a light commitment either. You are beautiful and if you don't like a boy, move on! If you feel like you have to be physical with a guy to make something work, RUN. That is NOT the answer.

You are better than that and you deserve to fall in love with somebody who cares so much about you that he'll watch your favorite TV show with you even though he hates it. Or he'll randomly buy something for you at the grocery store because it made him think of you.

Dating is hard, ladies. It really is. I completely understand. But I also understand my worth as a daughter of God. And that's more important to me than any boy I meet on Tinder.

Thursday, September 11, 2014

15 Things You Might Not Know About Me

Soooo I kind of stole this from my bloggy BFF Laura, but she loves me so it's fine.



1. I hate crafts. I'll totally go out and buy something for double the price than try and make it. I'm suuppperrrr lazy that way. Halleujah for Etsy!

2. I'm not a picky eater. At all! I'm totally okay with eating anything and everything.

3. My impossible dream is to become one of those people who can be catergorized as a "professional driver" in commercials. I LOVE going fast and I love driving.

4. I'm afraid of heights when I'm suspended over something. Like ski lifts or ropes courses. Eessshh! 

5.  Washington D.C. is my favorite city.

6. I have a weird sneeze. I cough and sneeze at the same time so people always ask me if I'm okay because it sounds so strange.

7. I wear headbands. ALL THE TIME. They're my favorite accessory.  

8. I've never had braces.



9. I've also never been to Disneyland. Yes. I know. It's the biggest disappointment of my life.

10. Brownies and cookie dough are my WEAKNESS.

11. Talk Dirty to Me by Jason Derulo is my guilty pleasure song. (And Turn Down For What). Love my dance music.



12. I have had over 10 jobs in my short life. Name it and I've probably worked it. 

13. I have a really distinct hitch-hiker's thumb. It's so curvy.

14. My favorite social media platforms are Twitter and Snapchat. 

15. I'm secretly obsessed with One Direction. I would LOVE to go to one of their concerts. 

Tuesday, September 9, 2014

Dear Boys: Happenings

Dear Valley,
I look up to you so much.
I believe you deserve everything life can give you.
Love,
Elisabeth

Dear Disney,
You are still the kindest and most polite boy I have ever met.
Thanks for your incredible example.
Genuinely,
Elisabeth

Dear Twinkie,
I still like you.
Unfortunately,
Elisabeth

Dear Blue House with a Porch,
Let's get to know each other better.
A lot better.
Wishingly,
Elisabeth

Dear You,
See you around.
Sadly,
Elisabeth

Wednesday, August 13, 2014

I AM DETERMINED

I was the laurel president in my ward as a stalwart young woman at the age of 16. I adored all my leaders and all my beautiful friends who made my teenage years a complete dream. From my young women group, I always had friends, I never got bullied, had multiple "second moms", and never had to worry about anything except what I was going to wear the next day. It was magical.



I sat in those lessons about eternal marriage with dreamy eyes and wrote down my list of traits I wanted for my future husband with complete bliss. I never really got past that point. I never gave a mere thought to what would happen if that didn't happen. (Give me a break, I was 16.) 

Over the last year, I've definitely been giving my career it's own office in my mind. But today, it hit me:
I'm 21. I'm graduating from college. And I am not getting married.

BUT GOSH DANG IT, I AM NOT LETTING THAT STOP ME FROM BEING THE MOST SUCCESSFUL WOMAN I CAN BE. 

I am done being the girl who pines over getting married and I'm done being the girl who puts dating before her schooling.

I am determined. I am ready to get somewhere in life. To own a house and a puppy and live the single life dream in Boston or New York or Maryland.

Will I get a master's degree? You bet I will.

Then will I get my doctorate? Absolutely. (There's totally a program to get your PhD in Social Media. I looked it up.)

Will I be the social media manager at Coca-Cola? Why not?

Will I do fashion advertising for Nordstorm? Oh yeah!

Can I run my own business and make a plug for social entrepreneurship? Heck yes!

So watch out world because I'm ready.

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